Want to know what happens when a group of sexual adventure seekers are brought together in a private residence? Peter Lawrence, owner of the U.K.’s luxury virtual adult party venue, Eklipse Parties, shares his advice surrounding what to expect when arriving at your first sex party…
It is no secret that despite its rise in popularity over the last few years in particular, the sex party scene remains cloaked in mystery. With tight guest lists and secret venues, they tend to be extremely private affairs, but this sense of confidentiality only adds to the excitement, and brings with it a world of sexual possibilities. Irrespective of what your specific fantasies, kinks or erotic preferences may be, there are an endless number of unique adult parties that can cater to every inch of your ideal sexual experience.
From BDSM play parties, to women’s-only events, there is always something available for anyone looking to join in. However, this variation in event structure, when partnered with the discretion surrounding sex parties, can prove to be a daunting prospect for new initiates to the scene. So, I thought I’d share this guide on what you can expect when coming to your first sex party, in the hope of calming your nerves to ensure that you, and everyone else around you, makes the most of this unique, sensual experience!
THEY ARE SURPRISINGLY VERY SIMILAR TO A REGULAR PARTY
When entering a sex party for the first time, be it virtual or at a physical venue, many newcomers expect to be greeted by people engaging in all manners of sexual activities no matter where they look. However, more often than not, this is actually unlikely to be the case, unless you arrive late on in the night of course, when the party is in full swing. If you do arrive at the recommended time, expect instead to be greeted with plenty of small talk as the guests get to know each other, with many individuals and couples looking to establish various connections for later on in the night.
There is often food, drinks, music, and sometimes even other forms of erotic entertainment to help ease in new guests in preparation for the main event. Think of a sex party as a more open-minded regular party, where instead of seeing the occasional couple sneaking off with their partner for the night, sex is the main attraction, both privately and right out in the open!
EXPECT A DRESS CODE
Depending on the specific circumstances of the event that you are looking to attend, the most reputable adult venues tend to follow an unnegotiable dress code for its guests. For example, for those attending higher end BDSM parties, expect to paint yourself in skin-tight latex and leather to be allowed entrance into the venue. The dress code will vary from event to event for most venues, so if you are unclear as to what to wear, we recommend getting in contact with the party host in order to prevent any complications from occurring upon arrival. We at Eklipse Parties only require a venetian masquerade eye mask as a prerequisite for example, enabling our guests to wear what they feel comfortable in.
THERE ARE ALWAYS STRICT RULES IN PLACE
Irrespective of which event you find yourself interested in attending; the safety of its guests is always of the most paramount importance. The vast majority of venues, particularly those which pride themselves on upholding their high-class image, will strictly follow a selection of rules and regulations in order to help keep guests safe and satisfied as the night draws on. The general concept of sex parties is that respect is something few and far between, but this is considerably far from the truth, as all high-class venues have no-nonsense policies in place to protect their guests.
Considering this, one of the most important aspects of the event that you – and your partner if you are bringing one – need to consider prior to arrival, is to consider your own boundaries and limitations, whilst also remembering to respect the boundaries of other guests, should you happen to be a particularly open-minded individual. Sex parties are designed to be an enjoyable experience for all attendees, and that is exactly why the rules are there in the first place!
THERE IS NO PRESSURE TO JUMP STRAIGHT INTO THE ACTION
For newcomers in particular, it is not uncommon for you to arrive at the venue with the intention of fully immersing yourself in the sex party experience, only for nerves to kick in when the time comes to enter. It is natural that everyone has their own boundaries, limitations, and reasons for attending a sex party. In fact, many people turn up not wanting to go all the way, or engage in any sexual activity whatsoever.
Sometimes, people just enjoy being able to converse with similarly open-minded individuals, or simply want to watch to feel more at ease, before deciding to join in. There is no pressure to get intimate straight from the get-go, or even at your first sex party in general, and it certainly doesn’t mean that you can’t join in on the fun when you begin feeling comfortable enough to experiment in this new environment.
EXPECT TO FEEL WELCOME
For those new to the adult scene in particular, it is completely understandable that getting intimate with someone who you have just met for the first time may feel like a daunting prospect. However, you can help overcome these feelings by simply talking to people. Guests tend to be extremely welcoming and considerate at these parties, so there is absolutely nothing wrong in telling someone it’s your first time. People will understand that you may not be ready to jump straight in, and will be happy to show you around, take things slow or simply just talk with you to help make you feel more at ease.
Similarly to the majority of adult venues, Eklipse Parties hosts an audience of varying experience, so chances are there will be other individuals, or couples, in exactly the same boat as you are! Of course, if you do decide to get involved, and it still feels too overwhelming, then just stop! Don’t be afraid to ask for a break, and step into a private room until you are ready to return to the action, or even head home for the night if it is still proving to be too much. Just make sure to not push yourself into something that you aren’t ready for, or simply don’t want to do. The best sex party experience is exactly what you make of it.
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