Slowly, deliberately, she peels off layer after layer of clothing, letting her hands wander across her body. She waits, her pulse quickening, imagining how his touch will electrify her. Like a moth to the moon’s hazy glow, she’s drawn to the window. Peering out over the misty, neon-lit parking lot, she breathlessly scans the streets for any sign of him. They’ve done this before; the walls of this motel dutifully guard the secrets of each of their nights together. She knows the door will soon creak open softly, giving way to the untamable lust welling up inside her — the heat they create together is blistering. Raw and ready, her mind wanders: How should she greet his arrival? Standing lithe and tall, breasts bare? Or maybe wearing nothing but sheer stockings and a mask — she knows she’s his deepest fantasy, after all. The minute the door closes behind them, they will shut out the rest of the world. No distractions, no reality, just her, her crystalline eyes staring into his as she runs a finger over her pouty lips. But she decides she won’t let him take her right away. She wants to watch him devour her with his gaze first. Only when she can feel his breath on her neck, feel his hands gripping her naked waist, when he can bear the wait no longer, will she give herself over to him. Just then, in the distance, she hears a powerful engine roar, matching the pace of the blood thumping through every inch of her body. She is ready.
Anyone who has had hotel sex knows it’s magically 10 times better than having sex in your own bed, and now we know exactly why.
According to Ian Kerner, a licensed psychotherapist, sex counsellor and best-selling author, having sex in a hotel room instead of your own bedroom causes a rush of the neurotransmitter dopamine to come out and play. Dopamine is what controls the reward and pleasure centre of your brain, and your brain gets to enjoy a nice dopamine cocktail when you have novel experiences. “The novelty of the hotel room is going to stimulate dopamine transmission in the brain, which pays a big role in arousal and sexual excitement,” Kerner told The Huffington Post.
Just like when you eat your favourite food after not having it for a while, it tastes extra delicious because you get a burst of dopamine. When you have sex in a hotel, it’s basically like having amazing sex after a dry spell. Extra delicious. The fuzzy feeling you get when you treat yourself doesn’t hurt, either. “There’s a psychological mindset when people check into a hotel that they can pamper themselves. There’s something a little luxurious, languorous, sumptuous about a hotel that lends itself to feeling sexual,” Kerner continues. Stress and anxiety are serious buzzkills, and your bedroom can be the headquarters of the all the shitty responsibilities that come with adulthood that cause said stress and anxiety. “There aren’t photos of kids, bills that need to be paid, books that need to be read; you’re in a place out of time, out of your life. And the shutting down or the pushing away of that anxiety, creating a boundary of anxiety and stressors of everyday life, is going to contribute to sexual arousal,” Kerner explains.
Now you know what to do when you need to add a little zest to your sex life. Get a room at the closest hotel (or go on vacation while you’re at it), throw on the fluffy hotel robe to relax, then take it right off and get busy.
By Alice Derosiers & ZEYNEP YENISE
Photographed by Tiziano Magni
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