Why are so many women choosing to be chaste in 2021? Resident MAXIM sexpert VANESSA DE LARGIE investigates…
International Male Chastity Day comes and goes every year with male chastity devices in popular demand. However, female chastity is rarely discussed, let alone given its own day. I guess many would wonder why any woman would choose chastity over mind-blowing orgasms. And that’s a great question to ponder.
When we think of female chastity, we often think of women being controlled by their husbands or fathers under lock and key. True chastity within the context of religion is sexual purity in mind and body. Christians take a vow of chastity which has three tiers — virginity, continence and matrimony. But the modern definition of chastity is sexual abstinence. So with all of this said, why are so many women today choosing to be chaste? In this article, I explore what every man needs to know about the secrets of female chastity.
BDSM
Chastity can often play a role in submissive/dominant relationships. This is usually orchestrated via orgasm denial. The dominant will take control of the submissive’s orgasms, granting them or denying them — depending on their mood. This kinky game-play strengthens the relationship dynamic while testing the obedience of the submissive.
GOING SOLO
Every woman knows what it feels like to crave sexual release — this is why masturbation with fingers and vibrators is so vital for women when blokes aren’t around. But why would any woman choose to deny herself an orgasm? As tough as clitoral, vaginal and vulval chastity is, practicing orgasm denial for a set period of time creates insane sexual tension for women. When she does finally masturbate or allow herself to be f—ked, the sexual release is so intense that it makes the period of chastity well worthwhile.
THE BENEFITS
Sex, much like food, alcohol, drugs and social media can become addictive and destructive. Just like a juice cleanse gives the digestive system some respite, abstaining from sexual acts and orgasm can return women to themselves — mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. Many women feel a renewal happen and experience a libido spike after a period of being chaste. What’s not to love?
CHASTE TOYS FOR HER
If you’re reading this article, perhaps it’s a sign to add a splash of chastity to your sexual relationship with your lady — maybe you could give her an “orgasm denial kit” or a “chastity belt”. Controlling another’s sexual pleasure with a key is a gift and a responsibility. As the controller of her sexual pleasure, you have a duty of care — be respectful in your dominant role and keep the channels of communication open.
CHASTITY BEFORE MARRIAGE
You may have noticed that it’s no longer the 1950s but with feminist puritans and political correctness on steroids, you could be forgiven for thinking otherwise. Relationships have changed. Most couples live together and f—k for years before getting hitched. So, how can couples these days spice up their wedding night and honeymoon? Chastity, of course. Many couples make a vow not to masturbate or have sex in the months leading up to their wedding day. This can also do wonders for a sex life, adding a spark that may have been missing for years.
If you’ve ever wondered about female chastity, I hope this article has helped you somewhat. Sexual experimentation, with various kinks, is perfectly normal and a helluva lot of fun. Orgasm Denial most certainly heightens sexual arousal in women and when you finally grant her a sexual release — be sure to strap yourself in because it’s going to be a WILD and explosive ride. ■
Vanessa de Largie is an Aussie actress, sex columnist and freelance journalist
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